This week I am forced to listen and not speak; and for those of you who know me, silence is not my strong suit. A small dose of laryngitis and your daily world changes.


This week I am forced to listen and not speak; and for those of you who know me, silence is not my strong suit. A small dose of laryngitis and your daily world changes. 



On social media recently several parents with children in Dixon High School were very upset and concerned about a possible threat of a gun being brought to school by a student on Monday. I do not know the facts and can only go by the bits and pieces presented, but I could read and feel. Regardless, it is a terrifying and unnerving situation for everyone. 



The school shooting in Washington State last week broke the rules of conforming with the FBI profile of a person who does such a thing. The boy was popular, a homecoming prince, a football player with strong ties to his family and community. Nothing seemed to fit the profile of a loner with anger issues. 



We live in a world that is moving so fast and sometimes we get so caught up that we forget that a personís feelings matter immensely and when one is hurt, terrible things can happen. 



Everyone in life will feel ignored, betrayed or perhaps even bullied at one time or another and it can be crushing; but itís our response to such emotion that matters most.  Social media in the last few years has made it all too easy to hurt anotherís feelings. When I was a kid and someone bullied you it either resulted in a fight after school or parents getting involved. There was a limit to it in most cases, today thatís not the case. 



We all say things that sometimes should be left to the sanctuary of our four walls, and not the worldwide Internet.  Itís so easy to vent against a former loved one or friend who has burned a bridge. The only problem is that social media is forever. 



If you are hurting, reach out to someone. Itís OK to ďunloadĒ and vent until the anger or hurt has run its course. Itís not OK to let it sit inside and brew. 



Talk to yourself, take a long drive in the car and have a conversation ó you may learn something or find a way to work out the problem. 



Donít feel that you are alone in this world. There are 7 billion of us taking in all the oxygen and several of us are sharing your same feelings and pains. Itís OK to ask for help. Itís OK to cry, and itís OK to blast your music and sing until you canít sing anymore. We are human, we are vulnerable and we are special. 



Remember knowledge is power and learning from others is a free gift.



 



Dorothy Royal is the owner of Surf City Guns and Ammo, mother of two wonderful children, ringmaster of a herd of miniature ponies and an avid member of the Surf City Writers Group and Topsail Book Club.