Let’s discuss the recent event in a Colorado high school. For those of you unfamiliar, an 18-year-old, known to many as smart and friendly, took a shotgun into his high school searching for a male teacher. I don’t know why, and since the young man took his own life we may never know. It is all very frightening. The young man was legally of age to own a shotgun. Until this event no one was alerted by any mental issues. He was just pushed to the edge.
What if we could go back in time? What could have prevented this? Did he just need someone to talk to? Was this simply over a grade or did something confrontational happen between the young man and this teacher? Either way it is very sad.
In this day and age we, as humans, are becoming more and more detached and more and more dependent on electronics to replace human contact. Look around the next time you go out to eat.
When I was in kindergarten it was common for little girls to chase and try to kiss little boys. Everyone hugged each other and no one was charged with sexual misconduct. We were allowed to show compassion. Friends held hands. Human contact was allowed and magically we all survived.
Friends had arguments, students wrote about each other and teachers on bathroom walls, fist fights took place afterschool in the parking lots. We let off steam, we continued on and everyone was better for it.
What happened to us? When did touching become so evil? Why is it taboo to give someone having a bad day a hug? When did it become a crime of passion for people to cry in public? Holy smokes what have we done to ourselves? Repeat after me, “I am not a robot and human contact is important to me. It is alright to hug someone, it is alright to let someone vent out loud while I listen, it’s alright to tell someone I care about them and the day they are having.” Good, now do this every day.
Don’t take this New Year lightly. Every day is a gift and every person you know is important. It is okay to be frustrated, depressed or angry. Those are emotions, they will pass and you will be okay. It is alright to ask for help. It is alright to laugh out loud. Who cares? Makes you feel better and you should do it.
Don’t be idle and watch life pass you by. What are you waiting for? Read a great book, explore a new part of town, go to a foreign movie or drink gourmet coffee at an outdoor café. Life doesn’t have to be expensive to be fun, and don’t forget the doctor prescribes one good belly laugh a day, so enjoy!
Dorothy Royal is the owner of Surf City Guns and Ammo, mother of two wonderful children, ringmaster of a herd of miniature ponies and an avid member of the Surf City Writers Group and Topsail Book Club.