We all know the word “yes” has more power than “no,” but sometimes we get so carried away with our busy lives that we forget since isn’t it easier to just say no? No I won’t help you move, no I won’t watch your bratty kids that try to bite me, no those pants don’t make your butt look big (ha ha). It is funny, so laugh.
Recently I was faced with a dilemma. For the sixth year in a row, the school system has left my address off the bus route. For six years in a row, I went to the school to get this corrected. This year when I entered the school office I was informed that no matter what no changes to any bus route will be allowed, not from the school and not from dispatch in Burgaw. No, no, no. Of course my response, “You’ve got to be kidding me. This is so stupid,” I continued to explain that my kids are the only ones who ride the bus morning and afternoon on our road. Frustrated and amused, I laughed and left. Luckily the next day, over the loudspeaker of the school the vice principal requested that any child with a bus issue should find him.
I showed up the next morning and left my name and phone number. Within an hour I received a phone call and I explained my six-year problem. Magically, within an hour he had the issue resolved. The word “yes” was spoken. Yes is a much more powerful word than no. Remember that next time you have a choice.
Now, there are circumstances where this rule doesn’t apply. When a woman comes to a gun shop to buy her first gun and the salesman (or her husband) suggests the largest, most powerful gun in the case, the answer should be no — or at least, not yet.
Bigger is not always better (ha ha). One of the greatest conspiracies in the history of gun ownership is when a man recommends a handgun that he knows his wife will find too loud, too powerful and plain frightening to shoot, only to come to her rescue by offering to keep the gun for himself while getting her something simpler (which is what she needed to begin with). Pay attention ladies, this is definitely a plot that I’ve seen too many times to count.
Whether you are a man or a woman, if you are a beginner, take your time. Take some great classes (more than once if you really enjoyed them). Know what your needs are and what is really right for you. This is a big decision and can make or break your desire to enjoy target shooting which should be included in every gun owner’s schedule at one time or another.
Remember, knowledge is power, and no one said you needed to rush through what you learn.
Dorothy Royal is the owner of Surf City Guns and Ammo, mother of two wonderful children, ringmaster of a herd of miniature ponies and an avid member of the Surf City Writers Group and Topsail Book Club.
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