Growing up my mother taught me three valuable lessons: Always say please, remember to say thank you and learn the art of compromise. What she meant by the art of compromise was to always stick to your guns and make the other person give in. Based on politics today, she was years ahead of her time.


 



Growing up my mother taught me three valuable lessons: Always say please, remember to say thank you and learn the art of compromise. What she meant by the art of compromise was to always stick to your guns and make the other person give in. Based on politics today, she was years ahead of her time.



When I listen to people today, I realize that the most important thing we have forgotten is that we all need respect and that the simple act of thanking someone can go a very long way. Not too long ago I watched our local trash man go above and beyond his job when he took several minutes to clean up a neighborís trash can that had tipped over and made a mess in two yards. He left his job site better than when he arrived. Iím seeing less and less of this the older I get.



A friend told me an interesting story last week about a woman who drove into a Walmart parking lot only to encounter a young woman running and a store employee chasing her, demanding she drop the stolen items. As people continued to gawk, this one woman did the first thing that came to mind, she cried out, ďStop or Iíll shoot!Ē and the thief did just that. Now the twist to the story is that this woman did not have a gun at the time but instead she used a tactic weíve seen on television for years. Iím proud of her for seeing a need to help and filling it, since most folks would have continued to their business.



In the current swirl of hot gun topics and Senator Feinsteinís endless list of ďscary weapons,Ē we need to ask ourselves, ďIs there a compromise?Ē Can it be that simple? Certainly there is, but reaching it is going to be a long process.



First, we need to get the criminals on board. They need to understand by their selfish acts they are ruining things for the good guys. Maybe we should go back to good guys wearing white and bad guys wearing black (even though I spill things on myself every time I wear white, I would be willing to make a compromise).



Next we need to get the politicians on board who keep making more and more restrictive laws to limit the freedoms of the law abiding citizens. Suffocating people is not a sensible way of controlling them, just pick up any history book and start reading. People donít need more rules telling them what to do and what not to do, they need rules that make sense all around.



If a young man is caught with marijuana (for personal use and not major drug cartel amounts) why should he face 25 years in jail when a man that keeps getting arrested for violent crimes, such as assault on a female or armed robbery get three years? I canít recall the last time someone was stoned and committed a violent crime, do you? But I certainly see over and over again where violent criminals are given walking papers just to commit another violent crime, and the spinning door keeps going Ö This is nonsense. Maybe our government is trying to teach us a lesson. Maybe if we protect ourselves and learn how to handle firearms then we can deal with the bad guys for them? Thatís a terrible burden to put on Americans, but Iím seeing it more and more each day.



I would like to start a new trend today. I would like each of you to begin holding doors open for each other, get off your cell phones and acknowledge people eye to eye, giving them the respect we all deserve, say thank you or write a note (yes, this is still very acceptable) when someone goes above and beyond to make the lives of others better.



None of this takes away too much of your time, in fact it might give more meaning to the time you have. Itís okay to disagree, just understand that all situations must end in a win-win for both parties to succeed. It is something we can all do, and itís never too late to begin to try.



 



Dorothy Royal is the owner of Surf City Guns and Ammo, mother of two wonderful children, ringmaster of a herd of miniature ponies and an avid member of the Surf City Writers Group and Topsail Book Club.



 



 



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